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20 Questions to Ask Your Aging Parents

20 Questions to Ask Your Aging Parents

Family trivia and game time can generate memories and historical context for future generations to recall and revisit. Keeping our loved one’s brains sharp is the more scientific reason for spending time asking questions.

20 Questions to Ask Your Aging Parents

20 Questions to Ask Your Aging Parents

Family trivia and game time can generate memories and historical context for future generations to recall and revisit. Keeping our loved one’s brains sharp is the more scientific reason for spending time asking questions.

When Help Abandons You

Help for The Youngest in this situation: I have been caring for my elderly father who is in a nursing home, somehow, for over five years. It started with three more family members helping out but now I am basically the only one. It gets harder and harder. I am only 37 years-old and the youngest of my family. For the past three months, I have done nothing but visit him and work. It has begun to conflict with my personal interests. I can’t go anywhere for long periods of time; my peace of mind has long been gone. I think I need some help. 

Lookout for Scams Related to Death

Lookout for Scams Related to Death

You have made it through caregiving and now your loved one has passed away. Aside from the inherent emotional turmoil, you find yourself dealing with another round of logistics. At that time, we may not be in our best mindset and thus become susceptible to scam artists and crooks that will take advantage in any way they can. Here are some things to watch out for. This is an excerpt from my book: I’ll Be Right There: A Guidebook for Adults Caring for Their Aging Parents but applies to anyone who has lost a loved one. 

Navigating Difficult Conversations with Family

September 2023 I delivered this webinar as part one of a three part series on caring for aging loved ones hosted by Forty W Advisors, a financial planning firm in Maryland. We talk about holding those #challengingconversations around awkward topics like ceasing driving, hiring help in the house, moving to a new residence where one might be safer, and so on. How you say it is more important than what you say and this webinar focuses on how to #createCollaboration rather than conflict when you begin these talks. Engaging a team to help and bringing more people into the collaboration for care is also included. Please reach out with any questions you might have. fern@illberightthere.com

20 Questions to Ask Your Aging Parents

Family trivia and game time can generate memories and historical context for future generations to recall and revisit. Keeping our loved one’s brains sharp is the more scientific reason for spending time asking questions.

When Help Abandons You

Help for The Youngest in this situation: I have been caring for my elderly father who is in a nursing home, somehow, for over five years. It started with three more family members helping out but now I am basically the only one. It gets harder and harder. I am only 37 years-old and the youngest of my family. For the past three months, I have done nothing but visit him and work. It has begun to conflict with my personal interests. I can’t go anywhere for long periods of time; my peace of mind has long been gone. I think I need some help. 

Lookout for Scams Related to Death

You have made it through caregiving and now your loved one has passed away. Aside from the inherent emotional turmoil, you find yourself dealing with another round of logistics. At that time, we may not be in our best mindset and thus become susceptible to scam artists and crooks that will take advantage in any way they can. Here are some things to watch out for. This is an excerpt from my book: I’ll Be Right There: A Guidebook for Adults Caring for Their Aging Parents but applies to anyone who has lost a loved one.