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Blog on the caregiver journey featuring my own story and tips for thriving during challenging times
Lookout for Scams Related to Death

Lookout for Scams Related to Death

You have made it through caregiving and now your loved one has passed away. Aside from the inherent emotional turmoil, you find yourself dealing with another round of logistics. At that time, we may not be in our best mindset and thus become susceptible to scam artists and crooks that will take advantage in any way they can. Here are some things to watch out for. This is an excerpt from my book: I’ll Be Right There: A Guidebook for Adults Caring for Their Aging Parents but applies to anyone who has lost a loved one. 

LAUNCHING!

LAUNCHING!

Join us for the launch of WHEN CAN WE TALK?, a guidebook for caregivers around discussing difficult topics like taking away car keys (I need my freedom, you’re crippling me!), hiring help (I don’t need a babysitter!), moving (why are you trying to kick me out of my home?) and more! Join me on Facebook at I’ll Be Right There for the live launch event: Monday, October 30 from 2:00-4:00 pm where we’ll be having prizes, give-aways, reading excerpts from the book and open question and answer session! More details will be posted as we get closer. 

Caregiving Stress During War Time

Caregiving Stress During War Time

Story telling is important so make sure you collect stories from your family while you can. Not only to keep a history but to make sure not to repeat previous mistakes. My mother shared her father’s story of anti-semitic hatred that took his brother in Russia.

If the war in Israel is causing stress over potential attacks on US soil and thus freaking me out about my mother’s well-being, imagine what it’s like to be in Israel. To live in the US and have a child or sibling or parent in Israel. Thinking of the families that watched their holocaust survived parents and grandparents being captured as prisoners haunts me every time I close my eyes now. For now, all I can do is aim to make sure my mother is safe, because that is what caregivers do.

Plans Washed Out

Plans Washed Out

Everything in life seems to have a purpose whether I plan it or not. My whole adventure around visiting my mother reinforced that our gut instincts are so important. When something is off, and you feel like there’s a blockage, honor that. Keep yourself safe physically, emotionally, spiritually, mentally.

Best Dad, Hands Down

Best Dad, Hands Down

Aside from wearing your loved one’s jewelry or clothing, using their tools, reading the books they loved, watching movies you’ve shared, there are creative ways to keep a piece of your loved one with you. I created blankets out of my father’s favorite t-shirts for my siblings and mother. One special shirt was made into a pillow to keep on my bed. #Memories #BestDad #keepsake

Should I Visit Family Out of Town When I’m Supposed to Be Caregiving for My Spouse?

Taking time to enjoy your family when your spouse is unable to can give both of you a lift. Your spouse won’t feel like they are tying you down and inhibiting your life and you bring energy and vibrancy in the sharing of stories and bringing messages. Enjoying the good in life will keep you healthy enough to continue caring for your loved one.

20 Questions to Ask Your Aging Parents

Family trivia and game time can generate memories and historical context for future generations to recall and revisit. Keeping our loved one’s brains sharp is the more scientific reason for spending time asking questions.

When Help Abandons You

Help for The Youngest in this situation: I have been caring for my elderly father who is in a nursing home, somehow, for over five years. It started with three more family members helping out but now I am basically the only one. It gets harder and harder. I am only 37 years-old and the youngest of my family. For the past three months, I have done nothing but visit him and work. It has begun to conflict with my personal interests. I can’t go anywhere for long periods of time; my peace of mind has long been gone. I think I need some help.